Is it normal to be angry a lot when living with your elderly mother?
By | DateGot this question from an individual about living with their elderly mother.
Is it normal to be angry a lot when living with your elderly mother?
Anger can take many forms. If you are frustrated and feeling overwhelmed, that is one thing. If you are angry and lashing out verbally or physically then you are on dangerous ground. Get help managing your stress and handling your anger appropriately. Don’t try to “go it alone”.
As our parents age, we might be in denial to all the changes we see in them. It is hard to accept that the person in front of you has regressed to behaviors that closely resemble unruly children. It is important to acknowledge your role reversal status. Unless you accept the likelihood that you will receive the brunt of your parents’ outbursts, negativity and unacceptable behaviors as the primary caregiver, you will suffer even more emotionally.
It might be helpful to make an effort to satisfy the demands of your parents, but know you will have to set boundaries for what you will accept. If your parents have always been angry, it is easier to understand their anger now at losing their independence. If your parents are suffering any degree of dementia, the best thing you can do for them is to assure that they see medical professionals (such as neurologists and geriatricians) who can properly diagnose dementia and prescribe medicines that will help with behavioral issues.
Start getting help today. Talk to an eldercare advisor at Care For Life who will listen to your needs and make every effort to provide resources to help you. It is always wise to participate in a support group with persons in similar situations. Call 2-1-1 for community resources also.